I will start by saying that I am insanely tired after a very long week of work and am falling asleep as I type. Having said that, if this post seems to make less sense than others or if I trail off every now and then, I blame my exhaustion.
I was forced to watch Brigette Jones' Diary today for the first time and it brought up a few interesting points in my mind. Not because of the movie itself but because of one of the characters in the movie: Mr. Darcy.
Darcy is a character who becamse Lizzy's love interest in Pride and Prejudice and who was evidentally viewed as the perfect gentleman, being used in Brigette Jones' Diary. I found this to be very interesting. Let me state very clearly that I thought Brigette Jones' was a terrible movie, and the second one (which I also, unfortunately, watched) was even worse. There was no true premise to the story except for a weak shadow of P&P (Pride and Prejudice).
So instead on elaborating specifically on the novel or terrible movie, I choose to elaborate on Mr. Darcy's character, and further extrapolate in order to relate it to our modern world.
Mr. Darcy is known as being the ideal gentlemen with obvious flaws. He respects women and all that good stuff, but unfortunately lacks a certain amount of manners that we would consider common today (and that would be considered common when the novel was written). This flaw is of course the reason that he does not initially succeed in his love interest.
Taking this information into consideration and applying the status of gentleman in today's world, his lack of manners would run his gentlemanly image into the ground. He was proven to be a fine man, willing to commit and to be everything a man should be, he simply lacked certain social skills. Let's apply that to todays world:
We are defined by the way in which we act. We can have the best intentions in the world but if we lack certain social skills (even just a certain few) then we are left on the side, disregarded as a gentleman. On the other hand, if a man's intentions are shallow and misleading, he can still be considered a gentleman and succeed in the world of "womanizing" if he is capable of wielding words.
This is all incredibly interesting to me because men in general now carry certain labels. A true gentleman in today's world may fall into the same category as a player simply because it is not common that ladies in today's world experience true gentlemen. Our world is based upon lies and manipulation, many guys choose to exploit that fact and THAT is why the good guy always loses, either being completely misunderstood or being disregarded as a true man.
I'm sure I could write more in regards to gentlemen in our world, and I plan to do so in a later post; however, my exhaustion leads me to sleep and so I'll cut this post short.
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Such a great penmanship should lead to journalism...or even anthropology (nature of man) - the world is in need of valuable ideas and sensitive thoughts.
Ya, I hear what you're saying. You know what, I try to be a gentleman. I open every door that could possibly be opened for a girl, pay for a good meal, listen till my ears fall off (seriously, I went out for coffee with a girl once, and we talked for 5 hours. Of those 5 hours, SHE talked for 4 hrs and 45min. I had to pee by hour 1.5).
What do I get for being a gentleman? Either being called a "nice guy who's a friend" or someone trying too hard to get in her pants.
The gentleman is a dying breed and I am personally beginning to see why.
That's one of the problems though. I am not, in any way, criticizing your treatment of women or the fact that you listen, I applaud you for doing so. The problem is that afterwards you complain about it and furthermore rant about how you sat through it and endured the pain.
A true gentleman would not see it as painful and would not complain in any way; he would instead be happy to have listened, and happy that the women in question was willing to open up to him. I'd agree that it can become excessive, at which point your personal needs need to be taken into consideration. However, this is one of the reasons that gentlemen ARE in fact a dying breed; many of today's gentlemen are not true gentlemen.
I actually agree with you on that one. If you have a girl who is willing to open up, you should consider yourself lucky and keep it to yourself if it's too much (be happy she wants to talk, period). But I can see what anonymous is saying too... because there are so few gentlemen in the world today, the real gentlemen won't survive cause I don't think the ladies understand that concept anymore.
Everyday I see beautiful, intelligent girls who are with total dicks... like they don't think they should be treated like princesses.
It's a damn shame.
p.s. Benj, I just commented on your music dies segment too. Read it. Later.
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